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Fancy popular girl
Hello, Abela! I am a boy
of 17 years - loser in school. In love with the most beautiful girl. She's one
year younger than me. Anyone who studied at my school knows her. All the boys
go after it with tongues and dream to have. I am one of them, but the problem
is, I'm too shy to speak to her. Besides, I'm not the most attractive. And her
boyfriend is the biggest bully in school. He's a punk and from my class. I've
tried to forget her, but failed. No other is more beautiful than her. Peter,
17years old.
Peter, what can I say!
It is not a slight to those who fall for the most popular girl. Is not there
some other, more accessible, not so much stardom girl to capture your heart?
And what you want to prove you guys who fight for the most beautiful girl? That
you win it is more in the most? Have you thought why always win those punks in
which you dreamed? Because not pursue at all costs. Because they themselves are
unavailable. And exactly are interesting for girls like yours Juliet. So a few
tips - be not so conspicuously in love-with-protruding-tongue, try to learn
what she likes to her with something unusual. And really - why not see what is
happening around you? Maybe there is a girl who is waiting to notice it?
Lost
Hi Abela, I am a girl of
15 years and realized that the desire to please the people around me pretending
to be someone I'm not, and I lost myself! Look in the mirror and do not know
the person who sees the mirror! I have a feeling that it's not me! Help me find
myself. lost
Lost dear, what
experience is not unusual! Almost everyone has gone through this stage. What
matters is that you know what not. i.e. you starting line. We will do the
reverse process of what you normally do - instead write on paper "things
that they identify as a person," write "what I am" ... And once
read the writing, you will have the basis for a new beginning. The next task is
to use old magazines and make a collage of "what I think defines me as a
person." So little by little will get to that knowledge about yourself
that will help you feel found. This is not a solitary process, however. You can
use your best friends and ask them to write you a "who you are" and
see if it really contradicts your experience with them. Do not be afraid - to
admit that you have lost, it is very brave and is actually the first and most
important step to finding the true self.
My father is aggressive
Hello, dear Abela, I have
a huge issue for me. My father drinks a lot and then became aggressive.
Exploding without reason. Soon he reached me. My mother tried to stop him, but
he tried to hit her. My mother avoided talking about it! Greetings!
Nice girl, first: there
should be an open conversation between you and your mother. Second - you need
to seek support for the two of you because you live in constant fear and
tension of whether the father decides to chop you is not life! Please talk with
your mother to seek help from social services under the Law on Protection from
Domestic Violence! You have the right to defend yourself! Other options - work
out your plan of action in times of crisis. For example - to whom you can go
back if keep your money in case of need,
make a copy of all personal documents to have them handy if you decide to
remove the house. If you can go to your grandmother or your grandfather for a
while, also would be good. A person who has a problem with alcohol is difficult
to admonish. He needs treatment. But to get there, we need his consent. You and
your mother need strong support - from family, from friends, from neighbors and
relatives! To know your father that you have what you need help and you are not
dependent on it!
Follow me
Dear Abela, few weeks
some strange guy following me, and go somewhere. I do not want to tell my
parents because I'll allowed to leave. Frankly, he was dressed strangely
enough, there hood that never takes off, apparently hiding his face! Ask me
what to do to me trace this man more!
by Klara, 14 years old
I advise you as soon as
possible to share with their parents, and then immediately to the police! Even
if you have to go out anywhere companion for a while, deserves your trust! Do
not know what the motives of this type! Police knows how to do his job in such
moments. It is important for you to feel the protection and security to be able
to continue with their daily activities without having to constantly look
around!
Sex incident
Hello, Abela, I am a
15-year-old girl, who started sex. My problem is that
during intercourse the condom slipped. My friend was not done. Even our sex was
not right. This was my second time and it hurt still unbearable. I have two
questions for you. The first is whether it is possible to'm pregnant, and the
second - how can I make the pain more bearable?
Hugs all M…!
M…,. respect your desire
to have safe sex, so it should be! Be careful how you put the condom in order to
avoid such incidents. The penis must be erected. Not coated with various
lubricants. A condom must be fully inserted. About whether pregnant - then it
is not done, and not penetrated in you as it should, then the chances are
minimal. But in the future must be careful! On the pain - it depends on how
flexible virgin cuticle, how horny during the act at all - what is the
atmosphere! So - there will be pain, but it might be more bearable if you do
not hurry, act more mellow and romantic! Make sure to prone, you are protected
(using a condom) and everything will be OK!
Gift - sex
Hello, Abela! I am a
girl of almost 15 years. My problem is such that my friend, who is one year
older than me, will soon have a birthday and wanted sex as a gift - it first.
Can I do it before I change my cycle? Second - why does not he come yet? Please
help me because it makes me very afraid! (It'll be the first time, and on it!) Thanks
in advance ...
My dear girl, you can do
before you came cycle, but if you're ready? Or doing it just because he wants?
I advise you to wait a bit. Let his gift be a prelude to something more
intimate - such as kissing, pressing, but nothing more. Let us know yourself
before you throw in the vast lands of sex. Get to know your bodies! Are you
sure in your feelings? Educate yourself on the topic of sex, to not have to ask
me some questions and then after the fact! On cycles - up to 16 years of age should
you come. If late, and then, then it is advisable to consult with an
endocrinologist!
Is he sincere with me?
Hello, Abela! I'm 17 and
I have a friend who is much larger. Together we are nine months. Many love it!
The same model was the first man with whom I was intimate. And the problem is
that I'm jealous. And sometimes I just do not know if he is sincere, if he
loves me, that keeps me and not with me for sex ... He tells me he loves me
that he misses me. He did not say and his mother that he has a girlfriend, and
I feel that I hide, and I'm not a spoilt girl etc. What should I do?
Your problem is not
jealousy, but in the sense of insecurity, which is the basis of the situation.
The normal reaction to everything that I wrote to talk to him. To ask all the questions
they bully to get more or less direct answer, if cool guy, or at least to see
his reaction, if not quite so cool and your doubts are justified! There is no
point looking for answers just by guessing! Be direct and brave to endure the
information you looking for!
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